1. When did you realise your love for what you do?
I feel like this is such a standard question for artists, and I’m always mystified by how many can pinpoint an exact moment. I did not have a sudden, “Eureka!” It was a quiet, slow burn. A tiny fire.
Listening to your heart is an unbelievable struggle when the world is full of head-dwellers. It has little school girl crushes and signals it sends you here and there. For me, the signs were all so subtle. I don’t think I’ve fully realised how grand this love I have is because I still notice more subtleties. As I expand and continue to feed the fire, I have to believe there’s no limit to its rage.
2. What do you love most about what you do?
I create so much that is mine. I feel, so often, like I don’t even belong to myself. I feel like I belong to my head, my fears, my doubts, my worries. I feel like I’m owned by money and contracts and boys who’ve broken my heart. But the music, the writing, those belong to me. They are more mine than a shirt I can buy from a store.
3. What’s the most significant piece of wisdom you’ve received or acquired through life experience?
The only person who can validate and accept you is you. YOU must decide you’ve worked hard enough. YOU must choose to accept your best as your best. YOU must look in the mirror and say, “I look beautiful the way I am, right now, in this moment.” Nobody else can give that to you. Not in permanence.
4. What’s been one of your biggest challenges you’ve faced and how did you navigate through it?
I have a massive issue with self-worth. It’s on-going. But that’s okay. It’s perverse how we have these fatal flaws, we know of them, and then we scold ourselves for them. It’s okay that I have self-worth problems and if you have them, that’s okay too.
In general, I’ve realised that I’m the only person who can give myself these issues. Sure, they come from childhood traumas, maybe some past-life regression, but I’m the one telling myself I’m not worthy.
Negative self-talk is the biggest killer, in my opinion. If you want to lose weight, or advance in your career, or attract beautiful people to you, you can’t be sitting in your head all day battering your image, your work ethic, your wealth, your class. Everything carries energy. When you project into the world, “I’m not good enough,” the world feels that. It sends you the like-minded and the broken-hearted. But if you say to yourself, “I feel like I’m not good enough, but I’m trying to be,” you change the game. Just choosing to be aware of it and work on it, that’s a massive success.
5. What are 3 of your daily non-negotiables?
Exercise. Vegetables. I’d like to cry on the daily, but that’s not realistic. So, if I can’t cry, meditation serves me just as well.
6. What do you believe is your greatest asset and how does it serve you?
I have taken total ownership of the truth.
A lot of us live little lies. It’s like we’re a sales pitch. We sell ourselves to the world, to our friends, to our families, to our ex-lovers. And, god, it’s toxic. When you don’t speak on what’s hurting, when you don’t say, “this is how I’m feeling,” or “you did this and it wasn’t okay,” when you just sit in your unbelievable sadness and refuse to go into it, you sacrifice depth. Depth is the one thing I have that I believe serves me every day, all day long. I know myself, I know how to help others, I know how to listen, how to speak, and I learned it all by diving into my hurt and setting myself free.
7. How do you elevate and empower those around you?
I try to encourage others to live authentically. You’re just fine exactly how you are. Truly. Even if you’re working on yourself. Even if you’re overweight. Even if you’re unhappy with your career. In this moment, you’re fine how you are, because you have to be. You can’t be someone else right now. You have to be you. Every good thing spans from self-acceptance. You are who you are right now in this moment for a reason. Honour it and trust the flow.
8. What does the word failure mean to you?
It means I tried something and it didn’t work out for a reason.
9. In your opinion, what’s the number one thing that holds people back from going after what they want in their lives? What would you say to them?
My yoga teacher has an interesting outlook on this. I tried a pose one day and I completely collapsed, but I wasn’t the only one. And instead of saying you failed, he said something along the lines of, “You pushed yourself to attempt something you haven’t attempted before and you fell, and that’s much better than never having attempted it to begin with.”
10. If you could share one seed of inspiration for those chasing their dream, what would it be?
It’s supposed to hurt. It’s supposed to be hard. It’s not supposed to come easy. It doesn’t happen overnight. But it does happen. It happens every single moment you’ve chosen not to give up. That’s where success is. It’s right here, right now. It’s not in the past and it’s not in the future. It’s you choosing every moment of the day to keep going.
Be present. That someday you’ve imagined where you’ve “made it” doesn’t exist, much like how a rainbow appears to end but never does.